During this self-isolation and staying at home period, there’s been a lot of self-reflection. Self-reflection isn’t supposed to be easy.  It’s hard, overwhelming, deep, painful, thought-provoking, enlightening, and profound.

But you know…..when you know, you know you must change. You want to change to a better you.

You see time doesn’t wait for anyone. And once it’s gone, it’s gone. We can never bring back the first half of the year 2020.  All the things we wanted to do, but couldn’t do. All the wasted time we tell ourselves.  But when the world is back to normal, we tell ourselves we will not wait a moment to do all the things we planned for this new year and decade.  All the dreams we had for this fabulous new decade.

And now you’ve decided to be a better you. You decided what self care priorities you want to pursue. You have your “Why”, your purpose, your reason for becoming a better you.  Next is to start implementing the steps and habits to make it a part of your lifestyle.

I found some definitions of becoming:  to grow or come to be….to be appropriate or suitable to….any change involving realization of potentialities.

What is your “Why?” Do you want to be a better mother? Be involved with a movement important to you? Pursue a new career? Be a better listener? Be a finisher? Do better with your finances?

Be aware there will be haters.  Oh yes, the people who want to sabotage your good intentions. You must give those haters the kick to the curb. These people are just too deep into their own dysfunction. Stay strong and see it as being nice to yourself instead of being mean to them. When they go low, you go high. Remember you are rising up to be your best you instead of shrinking down to their level.

Stay out of their drama. Cut the cord as quickly and simply as possible, with little or no discussion. Fade them out, suddenly get really busy, wean them away with zero explanation. If talking to them is unavoidable, remember you made the decision you don’t want them around any more, so don’t get pulled into trying to help them work on their problem or change your decision.  Simply say the relationship is no longer working for you, that you don’t like how it makes you feel, and you are moving on. Make it all about you so they have nothing to argue on their behalf.

Cheers to becoming the authentic you!


“Don’t trade your authenticity for approval.”
~ Unknown wise person


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